Let’s be real for a second: many of us at some point in motherhood become unhappy. We don’t talk about it much because wow, we should be so grateful for our precious babies. But it’s not that we’re not grateful…a lot of the times it’s that we give and give and give, until there’s nothing left. We take care and put everyone’s needs ahead of our own. As a result, we become more irritable, more sad, more tired, more negative. Why is that? Because we’re not getting enough “me” time. But all of that can change with a little effort. Keep reading to find out how you can make time for yourself, even with the busiest of schedules.
*This is a post in my series “Be A Happier Mom In 31 Days.“*
Make it a priority
Have you ever felt like you just aren’t at your best? Maybe something you’re supposed to be good at and enjoy, you don’t… like motherhood (gasp!) Turns out studies show self care helps you perform better. If that’s not enough incentive to make time for yourself, I don’t know what is.
Pencil it in
Mark your calendar up with regular self care time. Schedule it, set a reminder, etc. If you take it seriously and treat it as another task or event, it will start to become a regular thing.
Put your foot down
Part of making time for yourself a priority means learning how to say no. You need to basically become unavailable to the public and under no circumstances do you reschedule (okay emergencies obv, but nothing else!)
Let it go
There’s no argument, life definitely keeps you busy. My biggest problem with self-care was that I felt that there was so much more that I could be doing with my time than catching up on a TV show or getting my nails done. Truth is, there is always something that needs to be done or something that needs your attention. It’s a never ending to-do list. Which means if you take a break, all those things will still be there when you get back.
Stop feeling guilty
Since when did wanting to be at your best become a bad thing? Why should we feel bad about doing things to reset and recharge? Self-care ain’t selfish and the minute you rid yourself of that stigma, you’ll see how crucial having that time to yourself is.
If you’re still struggling or need inspiration, check out this list of every day self-care ideas to get started. A lot of them can be done in 15 minutes!
Until next time,